is masturbation sex?

“i know it when i see it” – potter stewart

masturbation is the best thing ever. seriously! think about it – it’s free, you can do it by yourself AND you’re the best at doing it, you can’t catch anything, you don’t need special equipment but if you want it pretty much anything can be used somehow for jerking off, it’s a good way to explore and try things, it never gets old, and it feels really good!

(as a side note, i would be remiss if i didn’t mention that the above paragraph applies to most people but there are some people who have pbysical limitations that might make solo masturbation difficult or impossible – for more insight into the intersection of sexuality and disability, i highly recommend checking out andrew gurza’s disability after dark podcast – he’s a disabled fellow who has done some porn and is an advocate for disabled folks and their sex lives)

and now masturbation has gone mainstream. 20 years ago the only people who definitively knew you jerked off were either the family member who walked in on you or the friend that you really, really trusted. now we have social sites like bateworld and popperbate where the focus is masturbation and people are posting pictures and videos of themeslves doing it all over the internet. there are hashtags and zoom rooms and solosexuals – those are folx whose sex lives are exclusively or nearly exclusively solo ventures.

so with more people admitting to and talking about it, a question comes to mind: is masturbation sex?

the OED defines sex as “Physical contact between individuals involving sexual stimulation; sexual activity or behaviour” and the merriam-webster dictionary defines sex as “sexually motivated phenomena or behavior”

now those defiitions are all well and good but i feel like sex is a “i know it when i see it” kind of thing – people will see things differently. i know some folx who think you can choke on a hundred dicks and it’s not sex if there was no penetration (oral penetration notwithstanding) – some think kissing is the thing that makes getting plowed in the ass sex – others say that if you’re naked with someone else, it’s sex

but, is masturbation sex? i say yes, masturbation is sex. i know sex when i see it, and masturbation is sex. you might see it differently and you might have your reasons for it. we could debate it, but fuck that noise – there are a million ways for us to think we are separated from each other and we don’t need one more.

so, maybe the answer to the question is simply another question: does it matter?



2 thoughts on “is masturbation sex?”

  • I consider masturbation as sex. Sex with one self . There are so many variations of sex. Is it the same type of sex when your having a blow job or getting fucked? Sex is usually considered between two people . Masturbation is coming out of the closet ( thank God) maybe it’s time to redefine the word SEX

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